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We've been married for over 39 years and love to tell our amazing story in the form of a message titled "Hedges Around our Hearts." When we speak at couples' events, our message is always filled with practical ways to prevent small problems from becoming big ones. Sometimes, we forget that we are supposed to be friends with our mate so we offer simple steps to help you to fall deeply "in like" with each other!

Our message begins with the story of the death and resurrection of our marriage (in 1980) then we offer six Biblical principles about protecting marriages from external temptations and internal discontent. Our message is also about forgiveness and the possibility of new beginnings for all marriages. We give God the glory for healing our marriage, knowing that He is able to mend broken hearts.

Proverbs 4:23 is our key verse, "Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do."


Our Story on National Radio Broadcast 8/18-20

Our marriage story will be broadcast on FamilyLife Today with Dennis Rainey! What a privilege to be part of this national ministry. Here is an article from their website   FIND IT HERE.

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We are featured in Lori Lowe’s new book, First Kiss to Lasting Bliss: Hope & Inspiration for Your Marriage. It is now available here or on The book tells the in-depth stories of a dozen couples who experienced many challenges from child loss to infidelity, drug abuse to military separation and MUCH more. Find out how to prepare your marriage for almost any challenge, and learn the 12 lessons that will help your marriage not just survive, but thrive. If you go to Lori’s site, she is giving away 7 free gifts from different marriage educators as a thank you for purchasing a copy of her book in any format.
LinkHere's her site:


New Google ebooks site-Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome

Our Story is now available for instant download on Google's new ebook site.
You can load it to your computer, phone ipad or e-reader. All for under $10.00.
Instant gratification can be a good thing!

Here's the LINK


It's an amazing, Friday-Sunday, couples' get-away that will help you learn, laugh and love.

There are conferences all across the U.S. Just put in your zip code to find one near you.

We are going to the Orange County , CA event on May 30-June 1st, 2014 . It's held at the Hyatt Regency in Garden Grove  just south of the Disneyland. We'd love to see you there!

INFO: You can call 1-800-FL Today (358-6329) or go online to weekend to



National Radio Interview!

We had the privilege of being on a National Radio show with Nancy Leigh DeMoss. It was taped in Little Rock Arkansas and it runs for 5 parts.
You can order the CD set

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Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome-NOW ON KINDLE!

I just learned that our marriage book is available for download on Kindle from

It's zippy fast and only $8.79! I guess I'll need to buy a Kindle now! If you've read it, please write a review on the Amazon page.


New DVD available- here's the 3 min. trailer

Here's the new trailer for the DVD of Our teaching on "Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome." It covers the material in our book of the same name including all six protective hedges that should be planted around any marriage.
It's two 4o minutes sessions for about 80 minutes total. You can order it soon. email us HERE for details.


Workplace affair warning!

As a regular contributor to, I recently wrote this piece about guarding our hearts from workplace affairs.

The article begins: "If you work with a Flirty Frank or Tempting Tina, here are some ways you can stand strong against temptation..." CLICK HERE to read the rest of the story.


Ron's On Dennis Prager's radio show!

Dennis Prager is a nationally known radio host and and he was asking his listeners this question:

"Should You Leave Your Spouse If They Have An Affair?"

Ron called in and got right through to Dennis. Ron told Dennis that he did not leave me, and we rebuilt our marriage,
and have stayed together for 31 years. Dennis said, "God bless you! What a great example! We should play this for everyone who thinks adultery should always end a marriage."


Slippery Steps to Adultery by Nancy C. Anderson

My latest article is about the slippery progression of adultery. We can easily lie to ourselves, until it's too late and then we're ensnared in a sin that can destroy our marriage, health and relationship with God. So please, be aware of the first step and stay FAR away from it!

The article begins: At work and church, in our neighborhoods and during our daily activities we all encounter people of the opposite sex who are attractive. That’s not the problem. Our selfish choices after the attraction create the problem. READ THE ARTICLE

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Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome in Spanish!

Our book is now in Spanish!

It's called Evite La Tentacion en su Matrimonio. Which means avoiding temptation in your marriage. You can read all about it or order it from AMAZON by clicking HERE

You can also read an excerpt, which has been translated into Spanish, on by clicking HERE
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You can order it in English from AMAZON HERE.


New Article in National Magazine

Read Nancy's interview for a news feature in the August 12, 2007 edition of Today's Pentecostal Evangel.

It's titled Not so Quick: Adultery doesn't need to end in divorce.
It begins:
Nancy C. Anderson admits she married her husband, Ron, with the false notion he would make her happy. But soon after Nancy wed at age 22 — fresh out of Bible college — wedded bliss gave way to almost daily mutual criticism, anger and resentment.Be sure to read the first and last sections CLICK HERE

THE 700 Club comes to our house!

We were honored to have reporter, Julie Blim, and the film crew of the 700 Club visit our home. Ron and I told them the story of our marriage miracle for an upcoming national television broadcast.

This photo of us, in our back yard, captured the interview. Just in case you are not familiar with this show, here's our story on their website.


What Makes Your Spouse Feel Loved?

Wanna know how to get what you want out of your marriage? Give what your mate wants!
Read Nancy's latest article on the newly remodelled website.

Here's the opening paragraph:

One day, I asked my husband, Ron, to make a list of things he wished I would do for him: things that would make him feel loved. It was an amazing revelation. I made a wish-list, too, and when we started doing the things on each other's list, our marriage moved from frustrating to fulfilling.

To read more, Click Here


Our Latest Speaking Event

We spoke at Calvary Chapel East Anaheim (CA)
for a couples' seminar last month. On Friday night we gave our "HEDGES around our Hearts" message and on Saturday, we talked about financial harmony "Living In Holy Matri-money" aka "Till Debt Do Us Part"

Here's what Dean Riviera, the couples' ministry coordinator had to say, " Ron and Nancy's teaching is Biblical, inspiring, humorous, and very practical. We received only favorable comments from our attendees."


Greener Grass approved for curriculum credit

If you are a licensed counselor, pastor, social worker or chaplain who needs continuing education credits to keep your license current, here's a great way to read my book and get credit for it.

It's listed in the "Adultery" section of Study
To see your state's requirements go to the Approved By page

You can buy the book on Amazon, then follow the instrutions on to get the credit


Marriage Danger Zones -Crosswalk Article

Does your home have any danger zones? Here's a description of Nancy's article from (the largest Christian website in the world)

"If there are lust lures in your home, go on a search and destroy mission. Whether your struggles are with the Internet, television, or other outside temptations, you can build a protective hedge around you marriage and your home. "



Our Daily Bread-Daily Devotional-

You can read our marriage story or listen to the broadcast version HERE

If you don't receive this amazing devotional book, you can order them for a donation (or free if you can't afford them) through This link

We are amazed and grateful that our story reached their readers. (1.5 million in 15 languages)

My Wife's Affair Shattered (and saved) Our Marriage

You've been asking for Ron's point of view, Here it is!

This is the first paragraph of his article on

I searched her eyes for the familiar fire. Seeing none, I thought, who is this woman? My wife of two years had become an instant stranger. She repeated the sentence I could not understand, “I’m moving out.”

To read more, click HERE


Ron and Nancy on FamilyLife Today with Dennis Rainey

Our broadcast on FamilyLife Today aired throughout the country

This photo of us with Dennis Rainey and Bob Lepine was taken after we taped our interviews in the beautiful FamilyLife building in Little Rock, Arkansas.
You can order a CD of our interview HERE
or listen HERE

Read an article by Dennis Rainey with a recommendation/link to my book: The Article is titled Avoiding Emotional Adultery



R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to me!

Here's my (Nancy) new article about respecting your husband, even if you don't feel like he "deserves" it!


My book "Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome" has gone into a THIRD printing! Thank you faithful readers!

We have heard from many pastors who are recommending it to ALL the couples they counsel. One church is calling it "required reading" for their pre-marital classes in hopes of preventing the "greener grass syndrome" from sneaking into new, healthy marriages.

This book is striking a melodious chord with many reviewers as well. Here are two links to reviews written by people we've never met and didn't bribe!

If you'd like to order a copy, just click on the Amazon link under the book photo in the right column of this blog.

It's also available at,, and or you can get an autographed copy through the Contact page of our web site
Most Christian bookstores have it in stock or will order it from the publisher (Kregel)




CLICK HERE "Affair Repair"




Safeguard Against Workplace Temptation

"Coworkers often are required to work on projects or solve problems together, and the resulting closeness can build teamwork — but it can also build a feeling of intimacy. If you work with a Flirty Frank or Tempting Tina, there are some ways you can stand strong against temptation......"




We had such fun at Calvary Chapel Beachside's Couples Night Out. The couples' leaders, Dan and Jan, provided a lovely picnic meal. Then each couple was encouraged to find a secluded spot to dine and discuss some of the questions from our book (Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome).

We all came back to hear the beautiful worship music and then we spoke candidly about our disasterous marriage and the Lord's healing power. We discussed the six HEDGES that protect our relationships and gave the Biblical references for each. After we spoke, Pastor Mike Harris gave a call for prayer and many couples responded.

It was a wonderful night, rich in God's beauty, through nature and His word.

These photos were taken by our dear friend, Joel Wingo



I (Nancy) write a monthly marriage article for (The World's largest Christian website)
Here's how the August installment starts:

"Is Your Marriage Malnourished?

In this fast-food era of pizza delivery and speedy drive-through meals, it’s easy to forgo a sit-down "real silverware" dinner. We often sacrifice nutrition for convenience.

Unfortunately, some of us have transferred this fast-food lifestyle to our marriages."

To read more click here:


Couples' Ministry

We just returned from a fun trip to Temecula, Ca where we spoke to the couples’ group at Calvary Chapel Bible Fellowship. Pastor Clark Van Wick and his lovely wife Sally were warm and welcoming and so were the other couples. We spoke on the topic of guarding our hearts and planting HEDGES of protection around our marriage.

We told the story of our marriage’s death and resurrection and then gave practical, Biblical ways to protect our hearts from frustrations and temptations. They were a perfect audience because they laughed at our funny stories and cried at the “heavy” ones. We love to speak at couples’ events and we'd be honored if you would consider us for your next banquet, retreat, or regular couples’ Bible study. Please contact us for more info: Contact Ron and Nancy


Marriage Articles is the largest Christian website in the world! It has all sorts of wonderful resources about Family, Marriage, News, and Parenting. It also has an easy to use Biblical reference section and a daily devotional.

I (Nancy) have been writing for Crosswalk for several months and this month's marriage article has links to all my other articles, so it's a great way to read them all!

Click here to read: Warning Signs of Infidelity



Our marriage story and photo are featured in the June 18, 2005 issue of WORLD Magazine.

The story is called "Secret Sin" and it's about the alarming rise in Christian divorce rates and the growing problem of women's infidelity.

You can read the article in the print edition, which is now available at most Christian Bookstores,
or click on this link to

This photo was taken right before we went on the 100 Huntley Street show. Cute, hu? Posted by Hello

Our appearance on 100 Huntley Street

In February, we flew to Toronto to appear on this national Canadian TV show.

Our segment was about 20 minutes long and it went by very fast. Ron started to cry when he talked about God's mercy and forgiveness and I started to cry when I talked about my father. But it was not a sad show, we laughed too and talked openly about how awful our marriage was and how good it is now.

We took a side trip to Niagara Falls and it was COLD, but beautiful!

EV Free Fullerton--Couples in Recovery

We often speak to married or engaged couples, most of whom have not had affairs, but this week was different.

On Wednesday, we talked to a group of couples at EV Free Church, who've all had affairs.
The class is taught by Dave Carder, the author of TORN ASUNDER, and he asked us to share our testimony.

These wounded people are just beginning to rebuild their marriages and it was a privilege for us to encourage them. We told them the short version of our story and tried to give them hope for their own futures. Some of them were nodding, some were crying, and one man had his back toward us, with his arms folded, facing the door. I don't think he wanted to hear our message. That's the hard thing about speaking to people: we can't make them listen, we can't make them change. If they don't want their marriage to work, it won't. There has to be an internal decision--a desire--a commitment to stay. Without that, as soon as it gets difficult (and it will) they give up, walk away.

We will continue to pray for them and hope that our story gave them the encouragement they needed. We hope they begin to see the healing that can be theirs --if they choose it.